Infertility can put a real strain on your relationships, not just between you and your partner, but also wider with your family and friends.
At times you feel misunderstood, hurt and disconnected from the people you love and that is hard enough but combined with the stress of infertility – it’s a nightmare!
There’s no magic wand for all your relationships but our top tip can be a game changer in your relationships whilst trying to conceive.
Top relationship tip for during infertility
It’s easy, you don’t need to buy anything or do anything radical. It’s as simple as ‘listening’.
Now I know you’re saying to yourself – ‘but I do listen’. However unfortunately 9 times out of 10, we’re not truly listening or ‘active listening’. We’re multi-tasking, thinking about our reply or even thinking about something else.
It’s normal. We live crazy-busy, distracted lives. This is fine, but when a life crisis like infertility hits, it’s time to implement our top relationship tip for during infertility.
Listen like the wings are on fire!!
You know how no-one really listens to the safety demonstrations on aeroplanes? Well, imagine the wings are on fire – now how are you listening?
So we’re going to ‘listen like the wings are on fire’ to each other and it’s amazing what a difference this can make.
This basic listening exercise has been a game changer in many relationships, has stopped issues spiralling and helped people reconnect. You can use this technique outside of infertility too and see how powerful it can be for you at work or with your friends and family.
Where do we start?
It’s important to set some proper time aside for this, switch off phones and other distractions and be somewhere comfortable.
You simply take it in turns to talk / listen and the golden rule is ‘no interruptions’. There are some other important steps too. For the full instructions, download our quick infographic by joining our FREE Toolbox.
It works because each person gets a chance to ‘empty’ out and feel they have been completely understood by the other person. That’s what’s often missing in our communication – true understanding of each other and that’s super powerful!
Listening is the loudest form of kindness
So give it a go, and let us know how you get on. Join Your Fertility Toolbox or log in here for more great tips and loads of free downloads, access to guest experts and an invite to our exclusive support community.
Fertility Coach, Founder of Your Fertility Hub
Karenna Wood is an international fertility coach, founder of Your Fertility Hub and passionate advocate for more emotional support and information for women trying to get pregnant. She’s an expert in mind-body tools and when not blogging, podcasting, coaching or speaking is…fast asleep!