So you’ve been trying for a little while now, each month when your period arrives you sink a little lower and you’re starting to feel a bit panicked that this might not be happening for you.

How long SHOULD it take to get pregnant?

  • It’s ok to feel like this and completely normal. Let’s look at the stats:
  • 20% will conceive within a month
  • 70% within 6 months
  • 85% within a year
  • 95% within 18 months
  • Of the remaining 5% – about half will get pregnant by themselves and the remainder require medical interventions

Before you go to your doctor

Before you seek medical advice, you will be asked to try unprotected sex for a year if you’re under 35 and that reduces to 6 months if you’re over 35.

Take heart

So wherever you are on that timescale, take heart – sometimes these things do take time and even though IVF and infertility treatments are fast becoming normalised – most people fall pregnant naturally without the help of Assisted Reproductive Techonologies (ARTs).

I’m not going to tell you to relax or go on holiday and it will happen, but I hope you feel like you have some stats to back up where you’re at and where you’re heading and can focus your mind on staying positive for your journey. If you’d like more support and information on staying positive and managing your emotions about your fertility, join our Toolbox community for FREE weekly support, articles, interviews with guest experts and access to our exclusive community of women supporting each other. 

Next steps to getting pregnant

The next step is to start being more aware of your ovulation and fertile window. Even if you have regular 28 day cycles, it may still be worth looking into ovulation charting to be clear on the right times to have sex. And on that note – have sex at the wrong times too! Try to keep it about making love, not just making babies wherever you can. Conception is a complex mix of biology and hormones so get those hormones flowing with your loved one!

And on that note – have sex at the wrong times too! Try to keep it about making love, not just making babies wherever you can. Conception is a complex mix of biology and hormones so get those hormones flowing with your loved one! 

Karenna Wood

Karenna Wood

Fertility Coach, Founder of Your Fertility Hub

Karenna Wood is an international fertility coach, founder of Your Fertility Hub and passionate advocate for more emotional support and information for women trying to get pregnant. She’s an expert in mind-body tools and when not blogging, podcasting, coaching or speaking is...fast asleep!