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keep it completely private others share with just 
close friends and family or others are completely

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open around their journey it really is about 
what feels right for you making your choices

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around those those three areas is hard but i think 
i really encourage you if you can to be open about

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it not completely open necessarily but a little 
bit open because often you can really um find some

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sources of support you know so many times over 
the years i’ve heard i finally opened up about

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my infertility and my boss had gone through the 
same thing three years earlier or we found out

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i found out when i told my family that my auntie 
had gone through this as well and you get those um

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connections and that support that you so 
desperately need when you do go through this

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you can also share your journey online there’s 
a large ttc community for example on instagram

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and that can be a real sense of support and often 
people on instagram use that anonymously so that

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can be one way of sharing your journey um and 
telling others about what you’re going through

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without being explicit but in terms of how you 
actually tell somebody what you’re going through

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honesty really is the best policy um in terms of 
just saying this is where i’m at this is what i’m

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going through and then if you can people often 
want to know how they can help so be specific

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around how people can support you and help you 
you know whether that be dropping meals round

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after egg retrieval or helping with car rides or 
helping take your mind off things whatever it is

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if you can be specific around because i think the 
people around you want to give you that support

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even the people that you maybe don’t expect 
can really help guide you through this really

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horrendous phase of your life so it’s up to you 
who you tell and how private you want to be on

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this but when you do reach out there will often be 
so much warmth coming back to you and also to know

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that there is you know the support of a counselor 
a coach a therapist or through your doctor and the

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support of your clinic if you’re going through 
a medical journey or support in something like

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our app we have an app where we have a private 
community so you can just talk privately amongst

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other people because you do really get such a 
sense of connection when you talk to somebody

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else that’s going through it as well so 
that can be a real sense of support for you