Challenge your negative thinking during infertility

Challenge your negative thinking and feel more positive NOW even whilst trying to conceive!

Listen in to our quick video for some tips and tools you can use to combat some of the negative and unhealthy thoughts that are so common during infertility.

There’s a better way to live through infertility. We’ve seen it firsthand with our clients and Toolbox members.

It’s all about reducing stress and the negative that infertility has had on you and then challenging your negative thoughts so you have the space to feel more positive again.

We can’t control our situations, but we can control how we THINK about them!

Watch our video for some quick tips and tools to help you challenge your negative thinking!

Full video transcript:

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Hello, it’s Karenna I just wanted to have a chat to you today about your

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thinking.

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Often

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I find when I’m speaking to my beautiful clients & toolbox members

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that the thinking you’re doing is not very healthy.

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It’s not helpful, often not even rational or true.

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So I just wanted to make a quick video to talk a little bit around

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thinking and what that means and what that could mean for you.

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So it’s tough.

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It’s really hard.

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I’m not going to underestimate how hard this is and there’s going to

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be some days where you just can’t do this and that’s ok, but on the

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good days – on the days where you want to push yourself to feel better

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to live through this in a better way – starting with your thinking

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changes everything.

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So if you’re trying to change your diet, if you’re searching for

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new supplements, if you are investigating something, researching

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something for your medical journey. Everything stems

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from how you are thinking. I’m sure you know when you’re in a bad

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mental place everything seems hard.

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Everything is tough.

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It’s really hard work, and you know that place when you’re in a

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really good place, and everything feels effortless, and it flows and

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it moves. So even during infertility.

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This is a place of flow that you can try and get to. Alright that’s

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always the aspiration.

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I’m aspiring to it every day, but it takes work because the sad thing is

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we can’t change your situation right now.

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We can work on it, and we can do all the right things.

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We can’t change it right now. All we can do is change how you think

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about it and that can happen really quickly and everything

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like I said

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will flow from that place.

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When you feeling in a better place in emotionally and mentally, so it

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really does pay to put some time and invest in yourself above

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everything else that you’re doing for your

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fertility journey. So where do you start? I often say the best place to

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start is through journaling

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Just becoming aware of what you’re thinking is a huge first step

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often that

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can be transformational in itself.

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So actually writing down the words that you’re saying to yourself, and

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I can imagine you’re not being very kind to yourself!

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You’re probably saying things around.

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“This is never going to happen for us”, “Am I worthy?”

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“I don’t deserve a child.”

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“My body is broken” “My relationship….”

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You’re probably saying a lot of negative stuff and these are the thoughts that are

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looping around your mind all the time. Getting pen2paper

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is transformational.

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It can really transform how you think about those thoughts.

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Just becoming aware of them is an amazing first step

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So I really encourage you for a few days.

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At least try journalling.

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Just getting your thoughts out onto paper and see

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how you feel

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What’s your reaction to your thoughts? When you’re ready

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I’d love you to try and do a bit of thought reversal.

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So, what would I like to think?

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What would my pre-infertility self think? Or what would my best friend say to me

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about those thoughts? So I want you to be your own best friend about

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your thinking. So challenge that negative thought!

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Challenger it! It’s to challenge it. You’re the only person

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that’s going to do that.

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I said to someone last week on a client call.

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I almost feel like your imprisoning yourself with your thoughts so we can be

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really really making things harder, even harder, by these paths, these

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ways of thinking, but we can change them, but it just takes a little

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bit of work and effort.

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The next thing you could do is to go and find some affirmations that

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really help you

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think in a different way – positive

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forward-facing statements. So you could Google fertility affirmations, or you

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can have a look in our toolbox.

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So if you are a member of our Toolbox you have access to whole range of

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amazing tools. One of those is deck of affirmations.

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and other tools and cards like that the can help you with your

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thinking.

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We also have some workbooks.

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Basically that is me helping you go through your thinking

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and teasing that out.

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We’ve got one on stress.

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We got one of mind and body and worrying. They can be a really good

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tool to work through.

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So if you’re in our toolbox you can access those. If you’re not in our

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toolbox, please come along to yourfertilityhub.com/toolbox, and

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find out a little bit more about it because it’s a really supportive

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place with lots of tools to help you with things.

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Just like this – just like the thinking side of things. So we’ve become

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aware of our thoughts then we’ve challenged them, and then it’s that

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daily work of changing you’re thinking and you can do this!!!

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Affirmations are super powerful to help you on this journey – stick them

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up everywhere you can.

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All around your house, on your phone screen saver, everywhere

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that you see often to really try change your thinking.

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So these can be generic fertility affirmations.

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All you might want to create your own ones.

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If you’ve got a specific thinking path that you want to change

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that is negative that you want to change to be more positive, then create your own and

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stick them up on the wall as well.

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You can also have a look for some images that really resonate with you

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and image of where you want to get too. So let’s say you really want to find a

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bit more peace in your thinking. Find an image that really ‘sings’ that

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peace to you and stick that up, because images are actually much more

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powerful in our brain than anything else.

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So using images and the words of the affirmations repeatedly can really

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help to transform your thinking.

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It’s not always possible to change them around and be objective to

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yourself.

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So you may want to reach out for some support – a fertility coach like me

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or if you’re a member of the toolbox.

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you can work with me through the app and we can message and comment

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each other or you know a therapist or even a really good friend of all

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your partner might be able to help you work through some of

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these things. Keep using your journal – that can be another really

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good thing as you go through this thought change process to help you

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really getting out those thoughts onto paper as well.

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So moving forward.

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This is a continual daily work.

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This isn’t something that’s one and done

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unfortunately.

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We really do need to continually challenge this negative thinking to

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move you into a more positive mindset, and I just want you to know

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it’s hard, but it’s possible and it is so worth it.

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So so worth it.

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This can be the game changer for you.

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for your experience of infertility. You can find yourself going through an

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IVF cycle in a much better way.

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You can find yourself approaching your doctor

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or your naturopath or your diet or exercise or your partner BETTER

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or you can find yourself finally able to

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go back to a social arrangement where you couldn’t before. This is

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at the crux of how you feel – how you’re talking to yourself.

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I want you to be kinder to yourself.

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So the main message through all this is to be your own best friend with

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your thinking because transforming you’re thinking really can

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transform your experience of infertility.