Often the focus around preparing for IVF is around diet, lifestyle and practical arrangements. But one of the biggest things to manage during IVF is actually your emotions – riding the IVF roller coaster is tough and it can quickly take its toll on you.

Here are 5 things you can do to prepare yourself for IVF:

1. Remember YOU

Think of 3 things you loved doing before your fertility struggles and make a plan to include these throughout your IVF schedule. This could be as simple as a bubble bath, a good book or a visit to an art gallery. Creative hobbies can often be a great distraction and comfort to you – so what do you really enjoy doing?. Whatever it is, it’s vital that you try keep at least 3 activities going that are just for you and that help you remember the ‘YOU’ outside of your fertility struggles.

2. Managing Others

One of the most commonly painful things during infertility is other people. They can be awkward, insensitive and sometimes downright hurtful. Decide early on who you are going to tell about your fertility and how you are going to tell them. For example, if your sister knows that you will text her after your appointment then you won’t be bombarded with messages when you need some headspace. Similarly tell other people EXACTLY what you want from them. For example, tell your best friend you actually don’t want to talk about fertility and just want to have try have fun or tell your friends to announce pregnancies via text message to you so you can react privately. When people know how they can help you, they are much clearer and you avoid many potential painful situations.

3. Your Relationship

Infertility is something you are going through together, but often experience very differently. One way to ease the burden is to set aside 10 minutes each day to talk all things fertility. Make sure you don’t interrupt each other and just let each person talk about where they’re at and how they’re feeling. Once your 10 minutes is up – stop and talk about other things. Having a cap on the fertility talk can really help your relationship feel like it’s not been completely taken over by IVF.

4. Cut out unnecessaries

We all have those things in our life that we go to because we feel we have to or are duty-bound to be at. Well I’m just going to call it and say ‘Now is your free ticket NOT to go.’ So if the thought of a family party is too much, call off. You’re dreading a baby shower – politely decline. Your gym membership is ticking over but you can barely get yourself out of bed let alone jump on the crosstrainer, well that’s ok right now! Put your energies on yourself. Be your own best friend and do what you need to do right now.

5. Seek support

All too often people turn down support during IVF. The take-up of counselling sessions at clinics is frighteningly low as people think ‘Well it’s not going to change anything…’. Yes, you’re right, counselling can’t change what’s gone before but getting the right support can really change what’s happening now and in your future.

As a fertility coach, I’ve seen first-hand the massive transformations that can take place when people feel supported and address the emotional side of fertility as well as the physical. So get whatever support is right for you. That may be ‘TTC Only’ on Instagram, taking up the offer of a counselling session/fertility coaching or spending some time with a friend or family member that really gets it.

Specific emotional support for IVF

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Karenna Wood

Karenna Wood

Fertility Coach, Founder of Your Fertility Hub

Karenna Wood is an international fertility coach, founder of Your Fertility Hub and passionate advocate for more emotional support and information for women trying to get pregnant. She’s an expert in mind-body tools and when not blogging, podcasting, coaching or speaking is...fast asleep!

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